She says: My mom likes to donate to charitable causes
My mom likes to respond to every request for money that comes in at Christmas. S...
German Advent cookies are a labor of love
This fall, my husband and I hosted our first-ever Oktoberfest gathering, which i...
I want to help my friend who's being bullied
Be the antidote to bullying by listening, finding help and respecting your friend
I’m terrified my son is considering harming himself
We want to give our children our emotional and spiritual support
More Tips For How To Be Happy At Work
Find balance. Take pride. Don't sweat the small stuff.
He Says: My daughter and her boyfriend aren’t spending the night together in our house
Be patient and welcoming, but hold firm to your values
How Can I Affirm My Shy Daughter?
Encourage confidence in your child through your own faith.
How to be happy at work? DO YOUR JOB!
In the last column, I cited three means to higher happiness at work – intimacy w...
She Says: He is always taking his mother’s side
Alex always takes his mother's side, not mine. I think we should present a unite...
My stepson won’t obey house rules
My stepson won't listen to me when I try to enforce house rules – what can I do ...
Five keys to a happier marriage
Setting priorities and better communication top the list of five tips to make yo...
Keeping up friendships when you’re at different life stages
When you sense your friendships changing, keep inviting and avoid assumptions
Discovering the cross with sweet-smelling basil
Both the sign of the cross and this sweet-smelling herb help us uncover the true cross of Christ
Point your kids toward heaven
My dad always taught us that if we borrowed something, no matter what it was, we...
How can I have a higher level of happiness at work?
Make God your best work friend, accept responsibility and stay virtuous.
He says: We are struggling financially and I think I should get a second job
Work and family life should complement and not compete with each other.
Blessed Fruit on the Feast of the Assumption
The ancient blessing on the Feast of the Assumption reminds us to pause and be grateful
How can I keep my child safe without being over-protective?
Worry less, pray more when it comes to letting go of your child at any stage
What do you do when you have outgrown your friends?
How to know when real relationships with old high school friends are outdated - in person or online.
How can I keep God in my workday?
From prayer and patience to carrying a small cross, simple ways you can sanctify your workday.
He says: The kids’ summer is too structured
Less screen time, more fun for your kids this summer
Take ‘heart’ in knowing Jesus loves you
Strawberries and Prayer help you share the Feast of the Most Sacred Heart of Jesus with your family this June
My kids always whine for things at the grocery store
Planning, treats and patience can help you prevent and manage meltdowns at the grocery store
My first “real” boss doesn’t provide feedback
Find encouragement at work with co-workers and Jesus
A dessert fit for a May crowning
A daughter's spontaneous May crowning is a reminder of Mary's beauty and the beginning of a tasty tradition
Our new hire expects a promotion right away
Our new hire has been with us for just a month and is already expecting to be promoted.
I can’t afford to be a bridesmaid
Honest communication and prayer can help you, your finances, and your friendship get past the big day
The rules at my ex-husband’s house are different from mine
Prayer and support can help you negotiate different post-divorce parenting styles
She says: I don't want to homeschool our kids
Couples with different opinions on homeschooling should discuss the pros and cons before making this important decision
She says: He makes snide comments about our friends
Spouses should remind each other to not speak unkindly about other people, as part of a healthy, holy marriage.
We can’t live on bread alone … but try this bruschetta
A batch of Tuscan bruschetta with tomatoes celebrates St. Catherine of Siena
Can I find true happiness in my career?
To find happiness in your career, love God, know yourself, dream big and work hard.
How do I make my teenager do chores?
Ways to motivate your teen to do chores, along with a reminder about doing the little things for the love of God.
Can I be independent if I still live with my parents?
How to be independent but still honor your parents when you live with them.
She says: Joe is always telling our friends what to do
Joe is always telling our friends what to do, and he doesn’t realize they’re rol...
There are shortcuts in cooking, but not in faith
On the weekends my kids usually request waffles for breakfast. Not the easy ones...
How do we make a foster child feel at home?
Setting realistic expectations and being aware of your child's feelings can help you and your foster child feel more comfortable
Do I have a loyalty problem if I'm always job-hopping?
How can I balance wanting to continually change jobs to advance my career with a...
I can’t keep up with the lifestyles of my friends
Island vacations. Expensive dinners. Quick weekend getaways. Sounds fun, right? ...
Alternative Spring Break: Fun and meaningful
Feeling a tug to do something more meaningful on your spring break than relax on...
My co-worker won't stop talking about marriage problems
Help your colleague stop venting.
She says: I think we should sacrifice to have no debt
Find a balance between spending and saving in your marriage.
Creating an appetite for faith
We recently hosted dinner for two of our parish priests, and in the minutes befo...
How can I stop my daughter from bullying someone online?
What to do when your child is the bully online
He says: Separate Christmases for our quarreling daughters?
Our two daughters are not speaking to each other and refuse to be in the same ho...
How can I invite someone back to church at Christmas?
Bells are ringing. The trees are glistening. Everything is covered in snow. All ...
My kids don’t want to go to their father’s house for Christmas
My kids’ dad and I are divorced. They don’t want to go to their father’s house f...
How can I negotiate more time off for the holidays?
Since everyone wants more time off at the holidays, first consider why you should be given special consideration.
I hear my mother's language when I talk to my kids
I hear my mother’s voice sometimes when I talk. Is there a better way to talk to...
He says: I’m retired and I want to travel
I’m glad that Terri loves her work, but we have waited for this period in our li...
When religious people make uncharitable comments
My brother asked me why, if religion is so great, he hears and sees so many unch...
I don’t have the tools and materials I need to get my work done
I don’t have the tools I need to get my work done. Nor can I meet my deadlines. ...
How do I manage my classmates as their supervisor?
I am a senior in high school, and I’ve just been promoted to supervisor at my jo...
My daughter is really stressed at her first job
A transition into a new phase of life can be disconcerting.
She says: We should donate only to Catholic Charities
I think we should donate only to Catholic Church charities. They do so much good...
I feel lousy after I've been on social media too long but otherwise I feel disconnected
Facebook, Instagram, Twitter … social media are everywhere! Used as a tool to im...
My daughter says she no longer believes in God
After graduation from college, my daughter told me she no longer believes in God...
I want to support my friends who are having marriage troubles
Your heart is heavy with the needs of your friends. Their marriage is suffering ...
My boss is demanding and unpredictable
I love my job and earn a great living, but my new boss is demanding and unpredic...
She says: I'm tired of being the disciplinarian
Jason travels a lot for work, which means I am often acting as a “single parent....
My parents and I disagree about my college major
When you and your parents disagree about what you should study in college (and t...
How do I juggle the demands of two bosses?
I’m an administrative assistant for two attorneys who are both partners in a law...
He Says: We can't afford to pay for our daughter's college
Our daughter is in high school, and Mary and I don’t have the income sufficient ...
I'm overwhelmed with personal invitations from employees
My staff invites me to their personal, family functions, but I prefer not to go
Finally have money in the bank? Spend it or save it?
Hallelujah! You have money in the bank and an itch to spend it. As a young indiv...
I can't talk to my mom because she's distracted by her phone
I know you usually answer questions from parents – but I’m a 14-year-old with a ...
She says: His mother is too involved in our parenting
New parents should set boundaries with in-laws to assure a happy home.
It’s summertime - Do I volunteer or get a job?
Sometimes, parents and teens disagree about how to spend the lazy summer months....
She says: I want to go to his high school reunion
Joe’s high school reunion is coming up and I was looking forward to meeting all ...
My son is home from college and won't go to mass
My son came home for the summer after his first year at college, and announced t...
A recipe leads to Fatima
A short time ago, I met up with a couple of friends for coffee at a small café, ...
Do I have to hire my boss' nephew?
My supervisor wants me to hire his nephew for the summer. We have other, more-qu...
A stranger disciplined my 4-year-old son
Somebody scolded my 4-year-old son in the grocery store the other day because he...
Easter lessons for kids
My daughter once asked me, “Mom, what is the best thing that’s ever happened to ...
When your fiancé isn’t Catholic
Wedding bells are ringing. Birds are singing. It’s time to plan the details surr...
I don't have any friends at work
I’ve been at my job for a few months now, and I haven’t made any friends yet. I ...
Should we try shaming for our disobedient son?
Our son is constantly disobeying us. The last straw was this week when he g...
My brother does nothing but complain about life
Help your whining family member find a new perspective.
He says: We need to use more effective discipline
Our daughter is 5 and she’s developing quite a temper. There are toys thrown and...
He says: She posts too many photos of our kids on Facebook
Every time I open Facebook, I see pictures of our kids. I get that Michelle want...
How can I avoid forced overtime?
I am regularly working more than 50 hours per week, even though I’m only supposed to be working 40.
Fishing for answers
My child asks me if lobster are fish. I say no, they are crustaceans.
He asks...
Using foul language in front of my kids is not OK
How do I address people who use foul language in front of my kids?
Foul langu...
How to manage loan debt
If you are like most millennials, you probably have student loan debt. In fact, ...
My daughter, a practicing Catholic, is dating a Muslim man
My adult daughter, who's always been a practicing Catholic, is dating a Muslim m...
My boss’ poor planning makes my job harder
You’ve seen that meme that says, “Lack of planning on your part doesn’t constitute an emergency on my part.”
My 4-year-old is biting kids at preschool
My 4-year-old has been getting in trouble at preschool for biting some of the ot...
I can’t afford the family trip my siblings are planning
My siblings want to go in together on a cruise for my parents as a 50th annivers...
Embrace your Catholic values in online dating
Is the “perfect” love story the one that begins with the chance meeting in the c...
Enjoy authentic paczki before observing Lent
A year ago, on the eve of Fat Tuesday, I came across a table full of assorted bo...
He says: She is always texting, even during dinner
Jennifer is always texting, even during dinner. I’d really like to have an unint...
Swap gift-giving for giving together
Are you and your group of friends just starting out and wondering if you can aff...
Our college graduate needs to leave the nest
An Irish lullaby that I loved singing to my children includes lyrics that reflec...
How can I de-stress this Christmas?
God loves us so much that he decided not just to save us, but to do it by becomi...
He says: I’m not going to my brother’s house for Christmas
What do they do?
There’s been a river of bad blood running between brothers e...
Anticipating the birth of Jesus with a Jesse tree
A few years ago, I remember going through my 7-year-old son’s backpack and findi...
I’m stuck in a dead-end job
There are four levels of satisfaction you can mindfully appreciate, in ascending...
Giving thanks for the present
Do not worry about tomorrow; tomorrow will take care of itself (Mt 6:34)
...
It’s time for our daughter to host Christmas dinner
Holiday dinners commonly provoke a round or two of family feuding. Whether it’s ...
Home for the holidays? 3 tips for juggling time with family and friends
Heading home for the holidays is something most people look forward to. However,...
How do I deal with people who don’t like me?
You know that feeling you get in the pit of your stomach when you realize someon...
My coworker won’t share crucial information
Apply the four cardinal virtues. You might remember them from the catechism (180...
Our son says 'No' to college, he wants to be a construction worker
One of my best friends decided to work full- time in an audio library for the mu...
Slow-cooker chili to break a fast
More than ever, there is a great need for healing in our world. So much so that ...
He says: We should put our son in a group home
Our son is a good candidate for an adult group home, and I think we should consi...
Catholics care. Catholics vote.
Welcome to autumn! It’s the season of colorful trees, hot apple cider, football,...
I want my younger son to step out of his brother’s shadow
Our children had diverse interests in high school, but the entire family support...
How can I make the most of my internship?
Be determined. If you are willing, my son, you will be taught, and if you apply ...
Who decides to update the menu at the family restaurant?
Our family owns a restaurant and my siblings and I would like to update the menu...
Michaelmas blackberry crisp
In Ireland and the UK, since the Middle Ages, tradition and folklore have surrou...
How can I invite my kids back to mass?
One challenging aspect of parenting is realizing that children grow up and forge...
He says: "I don't want to feel guilty about not going to mass"
I go to Mass on Christmas and Easter with Marybeth. But, I really don’t feel the...
I want to help care for mom, but not every weekend
Before I begin, I would like to ask you to turn your eyes to your mother. While ...
How Much Screen Time is Too Much?
When I was young, one of my teachers spoke of attending the 1931 White House Con...
I don’t want to call my mother-in-law “mom”
You and your husband are in the process of beginning a new and very important re...
She says: All we ever do is argue
He Says: She is blowing this out of proportion
I think Jenny is blowing this ...
How do I talk to friends about faith when we disagree?
God calls us to bear witness to his truth and his love at all times. This is not...
Is it OK to take a ‘mental health’ day?
What a great idea! I was just dragging myself to write this column. Where have y...
Celebrating a selfless Polish priest
“No one can have greater love than to lay down his life for his friends.” (...
Do I have to get all my retail staff together for meetings?
There is a phrase called “death by meetings,” but there’s also a kind of “death ...
My aunt is a hoarder
Hoarding is more than just a mess, it is a mental health disorder. The Mayo Clin...
Does our daughter really need tutoring for a ‘B’ in math?
In his Prairie Home Companion radio broadcast, Garrison Keillor would invite lis...
‘Get the lead out’ food to fight lead exposure
For a community that has already faced many challenges, Flint’s residents are no...
5 Ideas to help you unplug now and then
Today’s world demands instant gratification and immediacy. We have been trained ...
She says: I want to make sure we get to Mass every week
He Says: I think we can miss Mass occasionally
OK, I admit, I feel a little l...
A Mary Garden - simple and symbolic
May is an exciting time of year for my husband and me. Summer is around the corn...
Planning your marriage, and the wedding
Wedding planning can seem daunting – keeping things in perspective will help you...
My brother won’t come to my daughter’s first Communion
My brother is no longer Catholic, and he’s refusing to come to my daughter’s fir...
Should I blow the whistle on safety violations?
My workplace has several machines where safety guards have been removed, plus a ...
He Says: NFP is putting a strain on our marriage
When we went to the training session for natural family planning (NFP), the coup...
Is 9 years old too young for summer camp?
My daughter really wants to go to summer camp, but she's only 9. Is she old enou...
Do I have to invite the whole office to my wedding?
I am getting married soon. Do if I have to invite the entire office to my weddin...
5 ways to be a faithful Catholic consumer
It is hard not to be caught up in today’s consumerist culture that glorifies buy...
If we're paying for the wedding, shouldn't we get to plan it?
Our daughter is getting married next year, and we offered to pay for the wedding...
Keep the Easter flame alive in your home
I love candles. They symbolize life, love and celebration. And I love burning th...
She says: I want to join a faith sharing group
I want to join a small group at church that is for couples, but Jack is refusing...
What can I do about the unsupervised kids running around my neighborhood?
There are some little kids who run all over our neighborhood without supervision...
My employer won't let me take Good Friday off
I want to take time off for Good Friday, and my employer won’t let me. Don’t I h...
The feast goes on
A typical Easter Sunday during my childhood included attending Mass with my fami...
Can we have Easter fun without the Easter Bunny?
I love the tradition of the Easter Bunny, but don’t want to take away from the real meaning of Easter.
5 tips for discerning God's will
Whether it is discerning between married or religious life, a career or school, ...
He says: I'm not sure I can trust my son again
Jim says: Our 16-year-old son, Kevin, sneaked out in our car and wrecked it. May...
My roommate doesn’t do his share of the chores
My roommate doesn’t do his share of the chores. We never discussed this issue, s...
How should I handle a co-worker's same-sex wedding invitation?
My co-worker invited me to her wedding to another woman. Do I explain why I'm no...
Should I intervene when I witness bullying?
While waiting for a bus recently, I encountered a group of kids, no older than 1...
Our new parish isn't diverse at all
We just moved to a new community, which has been a big change for all of us.
Mission at Home
Do you ever wonder how you can make a difference without joining the Peace Corps...
He says: The kids moved out, and now she's never home
Our youngest child just moved out! I was looking forward to having more relaxing...
The recipe for Catholic Education
I remember one day during lunch duty at the kids’ school, I saw a plate of dark ...
He says: We should invite our son’s roommates for Christmas
Our son’s college roommates don’t have anywhere to go for Christmas, because the...
Proclaiming the Good News artfully
I can’t speak for everyone, but personally, I find that sharing the faith is not...
The right gift for the right time
From the first date to the honeymoon, gift-giving is a common part of many relat...
I love Christmas, but not the office parties that come with it
I love Jesus’ birthday – but I hate Christmas in the office. There is an endless...
My brother is boycotting our family dinner again
The rest of us don’t even understand what it is he’s holding a grudge about, and...
Does my kindergartner really need an iPhone?
My son is in kindergarten and several of his friends are getting iPhones for Chr...
A sister and a mother
When Sister Mary Fallon joined the Servants of God’s Love 27 years ago, the last...
He says: She lost a lot of our money shopping online
Kathy's online shopping got so out of control that she racked up a huge credit c...
5 ways to save so you can give
Most of us don’t have dream salaries at our first job, but we still want to give...
How should I prepare for a Skype interview?
I have a job interview coming up on Skype. What are some tips for interviewing w...
My daughter just started college and her grades are bad
My daughter is in her first semester of college, and her grades have slipped sin...
Dear Future Husband
I applaud you for choosing to marry me, because that takes a lot of courage. The...
My neighbor took my dog to the pound
My dog got loose and my neighbor took it to the pound without calling me. Is the...
I want to vent about my job on Facebook
I am having a bit of a hard time at work, and I want to chat about it with my Fa...
My daughter thinks I play favorites
I love my children equally, but my daughter thinks I play favorites. How can I a...
5 things to look for in a future spouse
1. Character and quirks
Always consider the basics over any perceived perks. ...
Holy enough to forgive: Human enough for a sweet tooth
The life of Pope St. John Paul II is well documented in photos and video, and I ...
She says: I have a great job opportunity
She says: I haven’t been able to find work in my field in this area, and now I h...
He Says: I'm afraid she's becoming addicted
I understand Michelle has chronic health problems, but she goes to multiple doct...
My 14-year-old is telling lies
Q: I have caught my 14-year-old daughter in several lies lately, sometimes about...
My Employee can't make a decision
Q: We recently hired someone who came highly recommended, but he seems unable to...
Does summer vacation have to be so structured?
Q: It’s summer and my kids are out of school. I remember the lazy days of summer...
She Says: We should plan our funeral
John and I should really plan our funerals and let our children know what our en...
Powerful posting: 4 tips for healthy social media content
Getting caught up in digital expression is easy, but pairing what’s trendy with ...
My co-worker is interested in Catholicism
Q: One of my co-workers has indicated some interest in Catholicism. How can I ev...
I can’t get a job because of a felony conviction
Q: I have a felony conviction for possession of marijuana—I was 18 at the time. ...
My son has been using prescription drugs and painkillers
Q: I just found out that my 15-year-old son, who’s always been a great student a...
She Says: I can’t leave the baby at home
I can’t imagine leaving our tiny baby with a 13-year-old whose only babysitting ...
Liberating mercy
Mercy. It is lovely and precious when we receive it. It can be arduous and chall...
My neighbor neglects his dog
Q: My neighbor leaves his dog tied up outside all day — in the hot sun and the f...
Does prom have to be a 24-hour party?
Q: Around here, prom seems to have turned into a 24-hour-plus party. My daughter...
Making the case for a Rosary
A year before I met my husband, I had hit a low point in my life. I was feeling ...
She says: He won’t take his depression meds
Jim has been diagnosed with depression, and has been prescribed medication to tr...
Make sure you tell your kids...
As we age, we reflect on our own mortality, and the meaning of the Resurrection ...
How long do I have to do my co-worker’s job as well as my own?
Q: My co-worker has been diagnosed with a nebulous-sounding ailment that involve...
Catholic and free at public university
Leaving home for college is a big step for Catholic families. Promote your indep...
I think my co-worker is living out of his car
Q: One of my co-workers has had a few financial setbacks, and I think he’s livin...
A tall stack of hospitality
To harbor the harborless is a corporal work of mercy that simply means to provid...
My son’s friend is left home alone constantly
Q: My son’s close friend is in a household where the parents are rarely home. He...
She says: "I really want to be a stay-at-home mom"
When our first child is born in four months. But Rick wants me to go back to wor...
My kids’ wardrobes are driving me crazy
Q: My kids are driving me crazy with their wardrobes. My son wants to wear baggy...
We think our nephew stole from us
Q: At our last family gathering, some of our silver went missing. We are pretty ...
Can I ask people to put their phones away at meetings?
Q: I am responsible for running a weekly workflow meeting in our office. During ...
Why not donate something new?
Laundry is at the top of my list of most daunting household chores. But there ar...
He Says: I don’t find her attractive anymore
I don’t find Cathy attractive anymore. She’s really let herself go, and I don’t ...
Walking with Jesus on his way to the cross
How to pray the Stations of the Cross
The Stations of the Cross during L...
He Says: I want her to use NFP exclusively
Matt: I have come to a fuller understanding of the Church’s understanding on bir...
I'm out of the lunch clique
Q: I work in a small office, where all of the “old-timers” go to lunch every day...
Serving up Dignity
When it comes to feeding the hungry, I think of our neighboring soup kitchens an...
I’m afraid my daughter has an eating disorder
Q: I think my daughter is binge eating and purging. I’ve found empty packages of...
Children Grieve, too
St. John & Blessed Sacrament Parish of Davison, MI
April 17, 2013 is a da...
Should I look for a new job?
Q: Am I still in the right job? How can I discern when it’s time to move on?
...
Treasures of faith: An Advent project
This last year, we were blessed with a new addition to our family. It was very u...
We need to eat healthier food
She Says:
I have an ongoing struggle with my weight – and the holidays are pa...
My kids’ stepfather yells at them too much
Q: My ex-wife married a man who is a much tougher disciplinarian than I am. He i...
I’m swamped by too much email
Q: I have hundreds of emails to wade through every day – which is not helped by ...
I think my neighbor is dealing drugs
My next-door neighbor appears to be running a drug operation out of his home. I’...
My fiancée is too stressed out about our wedding
He Says: Elizabeth has turned into Bridezilla. One bridesmaid has quit the ...
Seasoned with sharing
The impulse to share can start at a young age. I’ll never forget the one day my ...
Should I let my neighbor’s runaway daughter stay with us?
A: My mother’s warm heart led her to open our home twice in this way when I was ...
My neighbor is mentally ill and constantly yelling
I have a neighbor who is constantly yelling and screaming – although he lives al...
Words that help us mind our words
"…Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, w...
He Says: "She is showing signs of dementia"
Dan Says: My dear wife, Susan, is beginning to show signs of dementia. I am at m...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - October 2014
October 20, 2014
St. Paul did not give us these thoughts simply to be read an...
Grandma is a recovering alcoholic and wants to baby-sit
Recovery: A long and winding road. An article by Kat MGowan, “The New Quitter” (...
Less pay and less respect; How much do I have to take?
Q: I am being paid less than I was before, but being asked to do more. It f...
She Says: His parents seem to hate me at times
Justin’s parents really seem to hate me at times. They ignore me at dinners and ...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - September 2014
September 22, 2014
To what extent am I controlled by external event...
Stolen French bread and fine silverware
Les Miserables reminds us that no possession is worth more than the opportunity to save a soul
Should I serve wine at dinner when an alcoholic friend is present?
My friend’s husband just acknowledged his alcoholism. When they come over for di...
Do I have to baby-sit my younger brothers and sisters every weekend?
I am 17 and the oldest of five children. My parents treat me as their built-in b...
Gossip and Fundraising: How much is too much?
Q: My supervisor has banned office gossip. Is that even possible? How do we...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - August 2014
August 25, 2014
Fr. David Rosenberg is the pastor of St. Mary Paris...
My neighbor’s garden is TAKING OVER MY YARD
My neighbor put in a lovely garden this year, but half of it has encroached over...
Oops ... I hit “reply all”
Q: I mistakenly hit “reply all” on an email in which I made a remark about ...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - July 2014
July 29, 2014
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, th...
He Says: She gossips with her friend about our marriage
I found out that Brooke told her best friend about a fight we had. I feel betray...
I can’t manage when my boss undermines me
Q: My boss criticizes me in front of my subordinates, which makes it harder...
She Says: “He’s obsessed with his iPhone”
Sally says: Jack is absolutely obsessed with his iPhone. It doesn’t matter where...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - June 2014
June 30, 2014
“God made the angels to show him splendor -- as He made an...
It’s time for my aunt to move out of her house but she refuses
My aunt really shouldn’t be living alone anymore. She can get by with her nieces...
A recipe for all seasons
The news lately seems filled with stories about situations in which religious in...
Should I allow my child to go to this sleepover?
Parental monitoring: In order to make decisions about sleepovers, parents need i...
He Says: "Our adult son moved back in, and I want him out"
Jim says: I was really enjoying our empty nest after the last chick had flown th...
I don’t want a mosque in my neighborhood. Should I protest?
They are planning to put a mosque in my neighborhood – along with the noisy call...
I want to find the child I gave up for adoption
Q: I gave up my daughter for adoption shortly after I gave birth. Now that she i...
Maybe Mom was right - Developing a taste for Brussels sprouts and God’s laws
For the longest time, Brussels sprouts have gotten a bad rap. We are haunted by ...
My two employees don’t like each other what do I do?
Q: I have two employees who really dislike each other. I know I can’t make every...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - May 2014
May 19, 2014
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honora...
How can I tell my mom I don’t like “surprise” visits?
My mom “surprised” me by flying in for a visit. I had other plans for that weeke...
Does my 4-year-old have to give up her security blanket?
Q: My husband thinks our daughter is too old for her security “blankie” and want...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - April 2014
April 28, 2014
Did the Good Samaritan walk away from the wounded man l...
Rediscover Sunday, family time, and POTROAST
The rediscovery of this day [Sunday] is a grace which we must implore, not only ...
Trouble with naptime at the office, and not just with my co-worker's kids
Q: I have a co-worker who falls asleep at her desk every afternoon. I’d like a l...
She Says: “A vacation means a nice hotel on the beach”
Callie says: How can Joe think that hiking and camping constitute a vacation? Th...
She Says: "I can't trust him anymore, so I don't see any other way."
Karen says: I am really happy that Josh got some counseling and is turning his l...
I'm short and I think it's affecting my career
Q: I am a 5-foot-4-inch man and I really feel as if my height is having a negati...
Lighting the way of the cross
I’ll never forget the time back in high school when my dad put the kibosh on my ...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - March 2014
March 31
If he needs to, we do too.
March 17
“If you have something to ...
My husband is setting a bad example. How do I get him to buckle up?
Q: My husband won’t wear a seat belt. The kids are now questioning why they need...
What should I do about my neighbor's kid who is a bully?
My neighbor’s son is a bully who scares the kids in the neighborhood. His parent...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - February 2014
February 24
How am I responding to God’s love for me?
As you and I go thro...
I don’t want my kids to watch horror movies when visiting my parents!
Q. Despite my objections, my parents let our young kids watch horror films when ...
How can I get my adult son to grow up and move out of the house?
My adult son does not want to move out of the house. Any suggestions about how I...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - January 2014
January 27
Don’t allow yourself to be overcome by the Big Picture. “One day a...
She says: “I don’t think our daughter’s destination wedding is valid.”
Kathy says: Our daughter just informed us she is planning to marry a young man o...
My co-worker drinks on the job. Should I do something about it?
Q. My office mate sometimes appears drunk at work, and I’ve smelled the distinct...
DAILY BREAD for the body and spirit
During the holidays, we can be prone to overindulging between Christmas and New ...
Can men and women be just friends?
Can men and women just be friends? Or was Billy Crystal right in When Harry met ...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - December 2013
December 16
Your Word is near,
O Lord our God,
your grace is near.
C...
She says: “Our daughter needs to learn what it means to be a parent on her own.”
Sherry says: Our daughter, who is 19, got pregnant with her boyfriend. They have...
Does my right to free speech end at my workplace?
Q. Our employer has told us that we are not to voice our political opinions at w...
Hecho en México
Celebrate the feast day of Our Lady of Guadalupe with this delicious Mexican cho...
He says: “I want to give my children whatever they need.”
She says: “We pay child support – that’s enough.”
Nicki says: Paul’s ex-wife ...
I don’t get the good assignments because I’m not young and pretty
Q. I feel as if one of my co-workers gets all the “plum” assignments. I am...
European seeds, American harvest
Thanksgiving is one of the most purely and authentically American of holidays. O...
Do grandparents have visitation rights?
Our son and daughter-in-law recently got divorced. Our son has no visitation rig...
We are hosting a party for co-workers. Do I have to go out of my way to accommodate a vegetarian co-worker?
One of my co-workers informed me that, not only is she a vegetarian, it is unacc...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - November 2013
November 25
Doubt, Disillusionment, Discouragement, Depression, Defeat, Despa...
Do we have to put our dog down because it bit a neighbor’s child?
My dog bit a neighbor’s child – it was the first time, and the kid was teasing h...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - October 2013
October 28
For today, tomorrow and all of the days that follow, it’s not all ...
Why doesn’t my boss respect me?
Menial tasks can make you feel you're not valued
Parents and Sports when the cheering goes overboard!
My son told me that he would rather I didn’t attend his baseball games because I...
Argument or agreement? Teens and household chores
I am returning to the work force. I have two teens – ages 15 and 13. What is rea...
She says: “He has unrealistic expectations of our children.”
Sally says: Mark is a great husband, but he has unrealistic expectations of our ...
I have my own life now How can I let my parents know I can’t house-sit like I used to?
Every time my parents go away on vacation they expect me to pick up their mail a...
Something to offer
Jesus loves the poor. Scripture doesn’t just mention that fact; it repeats it ov...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - September 2013
September 9
“Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.” (J...
How do I handle an employee who stole from the company?
One of the employees I manage stole some office supplies from the company. I tal...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - August 2013
August 26
Envy is never alone. It’s always accompanied by resentment and spit...
How can I get my boss to stop looking over my shoulder?
Q. My boss is a complete micromanager – I feel as if I might as well not even be...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - July 2013
July 29
You can ask God to change a bad condition FOR you, or you can ask God...
Is it time for the talk?
Q. My child recently turned 10 years old. Is that too young to have the talk?
...
He says: “Getting a tattoo is immoral.”
Mike says: Jenny wants to get a tattoo – I am really opposed to this and think i...
My ex-boyfriend won’t leave me alone. What do I do?
My ex-boyfriend won’t stop calling me or sending me cards. We go to the same sch...
A display of support
"Behind and prior to every vocation to the priesthood or the consecrated life th...
She says: “Our house is full of his junk!”
Mary says: Tim is a hoarder – our house is beginning to look like one of those T...
How can we “spilt the check” so everything is fair?
We went out to dinner with friends and did not drink – so we didn’t think we sho...
Selfish or shellfish?
I never used to like seafood. Particularly shellfish. Extra-particularly, raw sh...
One team member’s sloppy work is making us ALL look bad
Q. I work on a lot of projects in a group. One of my colleagues is always late w...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - June 2013
June 25
God created you with an inner nature that is centered on your free wi...
To be confirmed? Who makes the decision?
Q. My son has decided he doesn’t want to be confirmed. Is there something I can ...
Who should walk my daughter down the aisle at her wedding?
Q. My daughter does not have a close relationship with my ex-husband, and now th...
SHE SAYS: “I’m just practical. Why can’t Patrick see that?”
Sally says: I don’t feel as if I’m negative – I’m practical! You need to see all...
Should my neighbors pay me for fixing their technology issues?
I work in information technology and I am always getting calls from neighbors in...
A little change for a malt
Every day after school, at pick-up, I ask my kindergartener the same question as...
I am the victim of office gossip. What can I do about the co-worker who started the rumor?
Q. One of my co-workers is always gossiping, and it borders on slander. She told...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - May 2013
May 20
(This is the welcoming message of Our Lady of Lourdes parish in Dayton...
I shouldn’t have to walk through a toxic cloud to get to work
Q. Although the state mandates smoke-free workplaces, several of my co-workers s...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - April 2013
April 29
Happy those who feast on wisdom and savor her knowledge,
She will...
Should we attend a wedding if our children aren't invited?
Q. We were invited to a friend’s wedding and were told on the invitation that ou...
SHE SAYS: “I can’t stand the way he eats!”
Cindy says: I love Tom, and this sounds so petty, but his habit of chewing with ...
Do I have to accept friend requests on Facebook?
An old classmate “friended” me on Facebook, but I don’t want to accept. High sch...
She Says: “I believe we should pray always.”
Sarah says: I really love attending Mass once or twice a day, plus saying the ro...
More people need to respect stay-at-home moms
I am a stay-at-home mom and I feel as if my vocation is not respected. Why don’t...
I thought I was a guest at the company party, not the butler!
Q. Our office invited clients and all of the workers to a party to celebrate the...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - March 2013
March 25
Were you there when they crucified my Lord ?
Were you there when ...
Shouldn’t my kids dress up for Mass?
Q. My kids fight me about getting dressed up for Mass – I think the girls should...
A prayer for battle
Just a few months before our wedding, my husband and I attended a retreat for en...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - February 2013
February 11
As you know by now, Benedict XVI has submitted his letter of resi...
My daughter likes the baby sitter more than she likes me!
Q. My daughter seems to like the day-care provider better than she does me. As a...
A real American hero
Americans love to root for the home team. We celebrate our nation’s historical h...
Monday Morning Alka-Seltzer - January 2013
January 28
Your word is near,
O Lord our God,
your grace is near.
Come t...
She says: “He is spending us into the poorhouse!”
Sharon says: I found out that Jack has spent us into a huge debt without my know...
My siblings are rude to my fiancée. They need to stop.
My siblings don’t like my fiancée, they are making our engagement miserable. How...
My boss won’t let me be friends with the people I manage
Q. I used to go out to lunch with a co-worker, but I’ve been promoted to manager...
I flunked my mock interview! 5 tips to get it right for the real one
Q. We just went through a round of mock interviews at school, and nobody wanted ...
I don’t know how to be a good godparent
Q. We were asked to be godparents by some friends who are expecting a baby. We a...
ReADVENTing a calendar
When I was a child, I was given one of those chocolate Advent calendars. It was ...
He says: “Our daughter is old enough to choose her own boyfriend”
Mary says:
Our daughter is seriously dating a man who is not right for her – ...
Her cat has died. She needs to move on!
My sister’s cat died several months ago, but she’s still actively grieving. I th...
Leftovers redeemed
A year ago, I prepared a last minute Thanksgiving feast for my husband, kids and...
He says: “She wants everything to be exactly even for our children.”
She says: “He just doesn't understand.”
He's abusive, she is making a mistake!
My friend is reconciling with an abusive boyfriend. How can I help her avoid thi...
Chatty Cathy coworker
Q: One of my co-workers does nothing but chat all day. She comes to my office do...
Do I have to change my cooking to vegetarian because my kids are vegetarian?
Q. Our kids have decided to become vegetarians, which we think is ridiculous. Sh...
Helping your first-time voter make wise choices
Q: My son is about to vote for the first time. How can I help him make wise choi...
I am sick of cleaning up my co-worker’s dirty dishes – I am not the office maid
Q: One of my coworkers keeps leaving dirty dishes on the counter or in the sink ...
Nobility for Christ
A Message of HOPE
Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you ...
She says: “The kids are trying hard enough in school.”
Sally says: Sam is putting unrealistic demands for grades on our kids – if they ...
She’s 15, he’s 18 – should they date?
Q: Our 15-year-old daughter is interested in an 18-year-old who also likes her. ...
My son "unfriended" me. I am hurt.
My 22-year-son, who is away at college, “unfriended” me on Facebook because he d...
Imagine a young man of noble birth living in the early 16th century...
Imagine a young man of noble birth living in the early 16th century in the pictu...
She says: “I don’t want our children to know they have a half-sibling.”
Cindy says: Patrick and his high-school girlfriend had a baby together whom they...
We have a special needs child and I stay home to take care of him.
Q. We have a special needs child and I stay home to take care of him. I love him...
July 2012 - Conflict Resolution
I need items for my new home. Can I host a housewarming party?
I just moved i...
Should our daughter compete in beauty pageants?
Sexualization of girls. One of the concerns about beauty pageants is the focus o...
Faith the size of a mustard seed potato salad
The Lord replied, “If you had faith like a mustard seed you could say to this mu...
My friend lied on his resume I don’t want to recommend him for a job
A. You probably won’t confront him, because you haven’t already. I’m guessing it...
"I am tired of arguing about politics!" - "Then what do we Talk about?"
How to talk about politics within marriage
I am a widower How do I tell my children I am in a new relationship?
Not a new mother. Clarify that your new wife is not a replacement for their mom....
Growing in faith
I’ll never forget the day when, newly married, I walked into my kitchen and foun...
"I don't want to call my mother-in-law Mom.' " "My mom loves her - what's the problem?"
This situation makes me smile as it brings back memories of when Tom and I were ...
Why do my co-workers insult soldiers?
A.You’re to be commended for your loyalty, both to your husband and to his colle...
My coworker's lunch stinks!
A.You can’t tell her to do anything. You don’t have the authority. That’s the ba...
I want my children to love their father even if I don’t
A. Once, when I was a lunchtime helper at my daughter’s grade school, her classm...
Sweet mercy
It was a cold and dreary April day. Easter Sunday had come and gone. I was feeli...
"My brother-in-law is having an affair. I want to tell my sister."
First, let us make one thing clear – every married couple has a stake in all mar...
My mother is interfering with my baby-sitting rules
Wait for a private moment to talk. It may be that your mother was on automatic p...
Meatless Variety
It seems there are many Catholics who groan during Lenten Fridays. Is it really ...
"I want my wife to come to Mass with me." "I am not a Catholic."
It is not unusual in today’s culture that a husband and wife do not share the pr...
I am being 'guilt-tripped' into giving up my sick time
A. Let’s be clear about something. You are by no means obligated to donate your ...
What defines immodest clothing for teens?
Clothing is an expression of identity.
The choices that we make in terms of ...
Poletown pierogies
During my college years, I would, from time to time, work off-campus at a diner ...
"My kids aren't being treated fairly in our marriage." "I made promises about money to my late wife"
It feels like there is more to this than just how to distribute money!
Unfort...
Will an office crush ruin my life?
A.Feelings of attraction are commonplace and we all sometimes experience unruly ...
"I don't want my son raised by a stranger." "I love my job."
This reminds us of a time within the history of the Roman Catholic Church when a...
Can I be penalized for using a benefit?
A. Some organizations have policies and a culture that anticipate each employee ...
This bullying has to stop. What do we do?
Get school administrators and teachers on board. A tattle-tale is someone who go...
A light for us all
Christmas is great. Winter is not. Outside of the excitement for the holidays, m...
The disaster zone my teen calls home
Generate simple room makeover ideas! Why not focus on ways to help her plan some...
Eat and be Mary
Now it came to pass, as they went, that he entered into a certain town: and a ce...
"His ex-wife calls once a week!" "We need to talk about our kids!"
First, the greatest gift divorced parents can give to their biological children ...
Other employees can telecommute - I’m resentful of that privilege
A. Every work situation has positives and negatives. I think the mistake you are...
Survivor's guilt after a fatal accident
• Share a meal. What did you do together before the accident? If you went out to...
A feast fit for a priest - Chicken piccata with mushrooms
The older I get, the more I realize the value, sacrifice and contributions of th...
"My wife's stepmom should take care of her husband" "My stepmother is neglecting dad. I want him to move in with us"
On the other hand, Mike appears to be advocating that the priority in their rela...
How can I make myself fire-proof?
A. What does “fire-proof” mean? In the workplace, it refers to what an employee ...
Am I a bad parent if I don't go to every one of my son's soccer games?
Families are systems
When children are young, parental work and social activi...
A blessing for the home
It happened in those days that Jesus came from Nazareth of Galilee and was bapti...
"My house isn't my own." - "She needs to accept my past."
For Bob to expect Sarah to “accept my past” is unreasonable if it also includes ...
I suspect an office scandal. Do I tell the boss?
A. Joining in on office gossip, reading tabloid magazines, or listening to the l...
Is a gift for good behavior Reward or bribery?
What is the difference between bribery and a reward?
In some ways, it’s all ...
The dish on working together
As a wife and mom, I find that sacrifice can be broken down into two categories....
"Smoking is a deal-breaker." - "Marriage shouldn't have deal-breakers."
A marital relationship is based on covenantal love: trust, honesty, commitment a...
How can I avoid recommending my friend for a job?
A. I understand your natural reluctance to say something to your friend. Preserv...
I lost a child, and Mothers’ Day is hard. Can’t they avoid talking about it at church?
If you can, stand for your blessing.
You will always be a mother. When you pr...
How can I stop crying in front of my boss?
A. Your tears are the result of your emotions unexpectedly overwhelming you; the...
How can I get my parents to discipline my children my way?
Your family issues mirror global concerns.
Most European countries have banne...
A Polish Easter
I laugh when I think back to the times my neighbor and I would take long walks t...
It's my turn to be Mommy - The kids just need time.
Having Cathy going off to war is quite a role reversal from days and wars gone b...
Remembering a shepherd
Imagine entering a hostile land filled with savage people. You know but a few wo...
I dread family holidays - I do all the work.
What do they do? Isn’t this the way it usually goes? Last year, when the Easter ...
I’m afraid my boss has dementia
A: As many of us continue to work into our senior years, due to economic challen...
We are having a baby, but all of our friends’ kids are grown
What time is it on your social clock? We hear so much about our biological clock...
What I learned from a pretzel
I will never forget the afternoon God spoke to me through the Google search engi...
"He wants my e-mail password - that's private!"
What do they do?: Maybe the first question asked should be, “Is this the only in...
My boss canot spell - can I fix his erers without embaresing him?
A. Your question reminds me of one of my favorite Mark Twain quotes, “I have no ...
How can I find my birth mother without hurting my real mom?
Reasons behind apprehension. As children reach the end of the teen years and ent...
I got laid off – now what?
A: As a career coach, I have spoken with people in their 20s who think they are ...
TV or not TV? That is the question
No TV is an extreme choice. Parents want to make choices to keep their children ...
An Advent’urous design
For several Advents now, I have felt that I should observe the tradition of usin...
Our 15-year-old is pregnant - we need to help her raise the baby.
This situation isn’t new; generation after generation has experienced the same s...
"I caught him 'chatting' online to another woman"
What do they do?: Cheryl has a legitimate reason for concern because (1) she is ...
Sibling jealousy: What is a parent to do?
Get down to the specifics. Talk to your younger daughter one-on-one during a neu...
Once upon a time
Albert Einstein once said, “The only reason for time is so that everything doesn...
My daughter wants to be a poet! How can I change her mind?
A: Although I understand your concern, don’t overreact to her news. Your daughte...
He's gained weight and I'm not attracted to him anymore.
Tom says, “Most of us were fit and handsome when we got married, but time, our n...
How do I get my toddler to stay in bed?
Look at other parts of the day. It sounds counter-intuitive, but to see why your...
Are high-pressure sports good for my child?
I think sports are a wonderful team-builder. But I’ve noticed that some of the p...
Considering retirement?
So you’re considering retirement? If you are, this is a great time to be reading...
No raise is really a pay cut
A: In my experience, there are situations where an organization will make an exc...
I'm afraid my husband is an alcoholic
What do they do?: The last time we checked, beer contains alcohol and therefore ...
We got married too young - I want to try the single life.
What do they do?: We are reminded of words in a hymn that are applicable to marr...
My grandchildren are annoying!
Keep boredom at bay!
An R. I. Fitzhenry quote gives a clue on how to change t...
Sundae School
It’s funny what we remember from school. I’ll never forget the poster that hung ...
I hate not being the breadwinner
What do they do?: What is really important here is not who is the most successfu...
What do I do after I retire?
Retired? Trying to decide whether you’ll play golf every morning or keep a part-...
I can’t get my 3-year-old to use the potty
Mature in every way but one?
A mature preschooler is able to communicate his ...
From recliner to remembering
Let’s face it, a reclining chair is a man’s greatest treasure. There’s just no p...
I’ve been offered a job do I take it or stay on unemployment?
A. Working as a career coach, I often hear similar questions. Should I relocate ...
My kid is on drugs! What do I do now?
Call on your own support system. A first reaction might include the desire to st...
Will evangelize for food
Have you ever considered how dining together can break down walls? The meal, as ...
I lied on my resume should I come clean?
A: Your employer may or may not find out; however, it is evident from your quest...
Thinking about retirement? Can you afford it?
So you’re considering retirement? If you are, it’s great to have you reading thi...
What is the first thing I should do if I lose my job?
Unemployment can be one of the most trying experiences for your whole family; yo...
I can’t stand my son-in-law – three tips to make it work
The die is cast. As parents, we picture rosy scenarios for our children’s future...
Managing God’s Gifts – a stewardship journal
Since birth, my 4-year-old daughter has been quiet, independent, sweet and easy ...
Shouldn’t my employer mind his own business?
A: I agree – if you were at lunch on your own time, using your own computer and ...
He needs to find a job
What do they do?: How ironic as I (Tom), too, was downsized not just once in my ...
Should I take a risk on my own business?
A: The last word in your question, “dream,” is worthy of consideration. The word...
I can't stand our daughter-in-law.
What do they do?: We agree with John in some respects and can relate to what Mar...
My grandchildren have terrible manners!
The essence of etiquette is to make other people comfortable. Even as adults, we...
Got milk? Got a date? Tres Leches Cake
Having met my husband through an online Catholic dating network, there is often ...
Starry Night Christmas Punch
It’s the official drink of the “Please join us for refreshments after Mass” Cath...
How do I help my children understand chronic illness and death?
First, network with parents of other chronically ill children in your community....
How do I survive survivor’s guilt?
A. Your question comes immediately after I have read several articles about achi...
I love my wife, but my stepson has to go!
What do they say?: One of the first things that popped into our minds is that Ca...
How can you improve your credit score?
In these times of financial uncertainty, a credit card can be a safeguard in cas...
Make leftovers gourmet rice and potato soup
I recently had the displeasure of deep-cleaning my fridge and finding a couple o...
We had a baby, but lost our friends! What do we do?
Blue Heaven was released in 1927, but great artists like Frank Sinatra and Fats ...
My company is illegally dumping toxic waste. Do I report them?
A: You are in a difficult position with a serious subject that entails moral, et...
I think she's having an affair with a co-worker
What do they do?: Our first thought goes to the biblical saying, “If you look at...
I am a single parent. What’s the best way to manage my money?
Today’s financial picture is pretty dim. And if you are a single parent, it can ...
Always the package schlepper – never the driver
A. If you are new to your job, begin by asking your supervisor for general guida...
Our faith should be the most important thing in our lives
What do they do?: The first thing we noticed is both Laura and Steve agree that ...
I lost my job – what do I do first?
You’ve lost your job – and you are beginning to panic. How can you manage your f...
Big changes are coming
Q: How do I prepare my daughter for a new baby brother?
A: Your daughter will...
Protecting your child - driver’s tips
A: If she will be driving to school, have her leave home early so that she is pa...
My job or my daughter's soccer game? How do I choose?
Ah, as Catholics we joke so much about “guilt.” But that is what you may have. T...
She says: His big mouth embarrasses me. He says: Get over it
What do they do?: Tom’s comment to Jake is, “Wake up guy! Jody has accepted you ...
Don't. Stop. Thinking about tomorrow.
Sorry, we know you’ll be humming the Fleetwood Mac song for hours. Still, tough ...
Too little play? Not enough? How do I make sure my child is getting it right?
Try to match your suggestions to her interests.
The novelty of an old-fashio...
Good to the last leaf
Most moms struggle with the daily dinnertime trauma of getting their kids to eat...