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 | By Cynthia Kaan

Should We Commit to Marriage?

Boy meets girl. Stars align and all is right with the world; they are in love. What does our faith say regarding how long the dating timeline should be before we commit to marriage? What should be considered before such a commitment?

1. Meditate on 1 John 4:18 – “There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear.” Are you seeking marriage because you are afraid of losing something? Are you feeling pressure to check that box? Identify your true intentions and what is driving your desire to marry. Focus on what it means to have a vocation to marriage.

2. Read Song of Solomon 2:7 – “Do not awaken, or stir up love until it is ready.” Understand that the love and knowledge of Jesus Christ must be your first priority. Seek his love first. Find it fully within yourself and give your vocation time to arise before getting lost in the love of another.

3. Pray – Pray alone and with the one you’re dating. Commit to saying the rosary daily. Ask our Blessed Mother to guide you to the heart of her son. Marriage may be your vocation – but be open to that vocation being fulfilled with God’s guidance.

God is the great author of our lives, and our stories are as unique as our fingerprints. He will speak to your heart and provide you guidance if you remain open to his will.