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4 ways: to get past getting even at work
 
The cover story in this issue of FAITH
caused me to reflect on my own family’s similar experience
and how my parents’ example of mercy has formed my attitude
relative to my relationship with others, particularly in the workplace.
As an infant my older brother Tom was brain damaged by
what we suspect was an error in one of his vaccinations. For almost
three years my parents searched and prayed for a cure, to no avail.
Then one day, as my mother describes it, she was standing over his
bed and realized that she had to move on. At that moment she felt
that the Holy Spirit lifted a huge weight from her shoulders, she
accepted the situation, and for the rest of his seventeen-year life
my mom and dad, and the rest of us, took care of Tom. He never mentally
or physically, other than size, advanced beyond the capabilities
of an infant. My parents showed mercy by not going after the doctor
or pharmaceutical company, and by keeping my brother at home instead
of sending him away, as some advised. They just lovingly went about
God’s work.
I feel that this example has impacted me significantly,
particularly when it comes to dealing with those situations at work
in which I feel that I have been treated unfairly by peers or superiors.
It’s easy to become consumed with thinking about how we’re
going to ‘get even’ rather than focusing on extending
God’s kingdom.
In times of anger and resentment,
strive for these 4 ideals:
1 Acceptance. At some point we must accept our
dependence on the Holy Spirit to get us through a trying situation
rather than trying to fix it ourselves.
2 The common good. Through prayer, reflect on
what is best for everyone concerned, not just ourselves.
3 Forgiveness. Think about how we can bridge
the gap between ourselves and those who hurt us.
4 God’s kingdom. Remember that our purpose
for working is not our own glory; rather it is our contribution
to extending God’s kingdom on earth.
Jesus taught us to turn the other cheek
when we are hurt by someone else. (Matt 5:39, Luke 6:29)
But of all the directions that Jesus gave us, this is probably one
of the most difficult to follow. For instance, if somebody else
got the promotion I thought I should’ve had, my typical reaction
might be resentment and suspicion. Consider, however, that maybe
he really is more qualified. It’s just hard for my ego to
accept that. Regardless of why he got the job, instead of trying
to undermine his efforts, should I not first give him the benefit
of the doubt and ‘go the extra mile’ as the Gospel instructs?
Isn’t it possible that in helping him or her be successful,
I really will help myself in the end?
Originally Published: June 2003
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